Lessons in Life, Deals and the art of Negotiations I learnt the hard way

In the last year, I’ve made a lot of bad/irrational decisions, which have now come to bite me in the ass..

I’ve spent a lot of time being anxious, but i immediately write it all down, and so have come to realise a lot of lessons…

Thankfully, I’ve had to make many important decisions in the last month, where I’ve used these lessons/realizations, and hence make the right deals and choices and negotiate well.

Here’s a summary of what I’ve learnt:

  1. Talk to the main man for everything. Do deal with someone else and then leave it up to a third person to pass on the message
  2. Do everything yourself…if you don’t do it yourself, it won’t be done right, and that’s worse than not doing it at all
  3. Put anything and everything in writing in the contract. Don’t leave out anything ever
  4. No one gives a shit about how you feel, so you shouldn’t either. Just do what needs to be done
  5. Don’t leave anything unclear or unsaid. Ever…if things aren’t clear, things are shitty..
  6. Use the damn phone. Set up meetings and talk it out…things don’t get resolved on their own
  7. Print out all documents and get everyone alive to sign everything and put date and stamps etc. Everywhere …don’t do things half way…
  8. Don’t try to read people, or trust them. Always assume the worst and then take all steps possible to prevent it from happening…
  9. Ask direct questions and don’t let anyone divert the meeting. Yes, treat every interaction like a meeting. Prepare an agenda and open qs and make sure everything is answered, and when it is, close the meeting (simply fake a call or text and say that u need to leave)…be professional and force the other person to act professional as well…everything is a business deal, nothing more, nothing less. Don’t try to be friends or show emotion
  10. Don’t ever be at the mercy of someone…leverage makes the world go around you and make things happen your way…if you lose leverage, you lose everything…
  11. Run your life like a company, a business. And every deal like a business deal
  12. Always be on the right side of the fence, not in your thoughts, in reality and on paper…
  13. Don’t give a chance for anyone to question you ever / if someone is questioning you, then you’ve done something wrong, so don’t answer them, instead identify the root of the problem and correct the wrong …
  14. Don’t depend on anyone for anything ever…
  15. Keep the least no. Of people in the picture/deal..
  16. Never forget that people are inherently evil and selfish…even if they aren’t you’ll be much better off living with this assumption in all your deals
  17. Go by what people do and not what they say…
  18. Always have multiple backup plans. Never depend solely on a particular deal
  19. If you compromise 1 time, you’ll compromise all the time…
  20. Don’t be eager to sign the deal. Never seem needy or wanting…leave your emotions at home…be detached and transcend the situation…never be emotionally involved in the negotiation or the deal…
  21. Passage of time makes bad things worst…do the right thing at the right time,,,
  22. Get out of your head and live in reality…coz eventually you’ll have to do that anyways
  23. If you’re living in fear, you’re not living at all…don’t live in fear of anyone or anything…confront your concerns/fears head on and don’t stop until you eliminate the root of your fear…
  24. Don’t reveal a single word more that required…information is power…
  25. Don’t be a kid, be a man…demand respect…be polite but firm…
  26. Smile..there’s nothing more powerful than a smile at the right moment…
  27. Don’t enact hypothetical/imaginary situations/scenarios/conversations in your head. This is the root cause of all anxiety, worry and stress…unless you’re talking to real people, don’t think about it.
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Learned Helplessness AKA Employee Mentality

This video talk about how people act/are helpless by choice, meaning that they don’t thing while working, and so, when they’re stuck, they just turn to their manager/employer for directions.
In all cases, teh direction they recieve is something that they could have thought of themselves, provided they had the will for getting the thing done.
This is called Learned Helplessness. They’re conditioned to not use their brain/be driven to solve the problem.

Most careers require the employee to stand out by showing initiative and drive and solve problems

Tips/Lessons in Watching Online Videos

I subscribe to a lot of youtube channels and stuff and so an watching online videos almost everyday. Here are a few lessons/tips that i’ve picked up:

  1. Use Time saving tools like
    1. youtube center: It controls your resolution and screen size ( even supports auto full screen) and prevents more than 1 video playing at a time
    2. Feedly: I use it to subscribe to channels and playlists and hence keep track of watched and new unwatched stuff
    3. Speed Contoller: Control playback speed with keyboard keys with this amazing extension
  2. Don’t watch hour long videos: In fact if anything is bigger than TED videos ie > 20 min, i blindly ignore it, or put it in my youtube watch later list
  3. Watch with a purpose. This way if in a 5 min video, u don’t see your purpose being met, close it immediately and move on
  4. Don’t watch the same things again: Most online videos talk about around the latest news/finding, so if you’ve see 1 video about that topic on one channel, you can skip the same topic on other channels, as 90% of the stuff will always be the same across all videos on that topic
  5. Don’t watch obvious stuff: Most video channels, eg. Science based channels, don’t assume that you have a higher education in science. They just go by the fact that you’re interested in science ( coz you’re watching this video). So they talk about basic stuff, which is almost always obvious to me, being an electronics engineer. Hence I now skip such videos.
  6. Before you watch any video, do this:
    1. Read the title
    2. Recollect all you know about the title in your min for 10 sec
    3. Note down all your open Qs on the title in your mind
    4. Play the video and skim over the parts u know, as your purpose of watching is new info and to find answers to the open Qs you have
    5. If the video doesn’t answer your open Qs, google them immediately

HOPING is HOPELESS

Community – 06×03 – Basic Crisis Room Decorum.LoTV.English.HI.C.orig.Addic7ed.com

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Oh God no, I never hope.
Hope is pouting in advance.

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Hope is faith’s richer, bitchier sister.

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Hope is the deformed addict bound incest
monster offspring of entitlement and fear.

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My life results tripled the year I gave up hope

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and every game on my phone that
had anything to do with farming.

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What’s true will be true, Annie.
Our job is to deal with that truth.

Today I realized the true value of Open Book Tests and the right way to draft a test

Today, while I was sending out a hackerRank test to a prospective candidate, my retarded colleague commented saying that “what is the value in this, what if he cheats?”.

I didn’t have a response prop up in my brain immediately, partially coz i know he’s completely retarded and not worth giving reply to…

But then now, at night i thought about it for a sec, and the reason became obvious. When i give someone a test, i as the creator of Qs, have to ensure that he cheats (ie create an open book test) so as to arrive to the conceptual response that would make his answer correct, thereby ensuring that he’s capable of learning and thinking and analysing stuff instead of simply remembering it….

Note that Cheating in this context is from the book or internet, and not from another brain (person). And that can be easily assured by locking him in a room if you’re in 2010 or conducting the test over VC or Skype.

So bottom line is to not ask questions, that show up as 1st page results in google…ask PROBLEMS that you want the candidate to be able to solve as a prerequisite of getting the said job…so that when he passes, you can be sure of the fact that he can solve the PROBLEMS that you throw at him on the Job…

Bowling Rules

Sr No. Round Rule
1 Round of 16 each team will play one game.
Total 16 games each player should have minimum of 2 frames and max of 3
Top 8 teams will go to the next round
2 Round of 8 each team will play one game.
Total 8 games each player should have minimum of 2 frames and max of 3
Top 4 teams will go to the next round
3 Round of 4 Each team will play 4 games ( 1 game to be played by each player)
Total 16 games Points for 4 games will be added to arrive at the total score for the team
Each player should play 1 complete game
Based on the score teams will be ranked. Prizes for 1st 3 teams.

Note – In case of tie-breaks, each tied team will be given 4 frames to play. At the end of 4 frames, the team with highest scores proceeds. In case tie persists after 4 frames, the teams will get additional frames till tie is broken (sudden-death format).