There are definitely better ways to help children deal with their fears than to have them believe in God and Santa, but this is not about that…
There comes a moment in a child’s life when he’s told that Santa’s not real, and the next moment he moves on with his life. I wish there was such a moment for the belief in God that’s thrust upon him.
It’s just unfair and unreasonable to let him enter adulthood with this belief. Imagine if all adults believe in Santa, worse still, if there were multiple such Santas with conflicting rules and stuff…
Please don’t exploit your children…let God retire with Santa…
You all know the simple pro-and-con list? The one where you divide the page in two and simply list out all the pros and cons. Well, the Decision-Maker adds a twist to that. Here’s how it works.
On one sheet of paper, list all the positive things you can about the issue in question, then give each one a score from zero to ten—the higher the score, the more important it is to you.
On another sheet, list the negative points, and score them from zero to ten—only this time, ten means it’s a major drawback. Suppose you are thinking of buying a house, and you tour one that’s in your price range, except the owners have painted every room to look like a giant banana. If you really hate yellow and can’t stand the thought of lifting a paint brush, you might give “ugly yellow house” a ten, and if it’s not that big a deal, maybe a two or a three.
Now add up the scores. But here’s the rule.
If the positive score is at least double the negative score, you should do it—whatever “it” is. But if the positives don’t outweigh the negatives by that two-to-one ratio, don’t do it, or at least think twice about it.
Yes that sounds simple. I agree. But I also don’t think that things need to be complicated in order to be effective.
The Decision-Maker is designed not to allow one or two factors to sway a major life decision in a disproportionate way. It forces you to strip away the emotion and really examine the relative importance of each point—which, of course, is why it works so well.
This tool works for groups too.
When we were considering whether to sell our royalty company, Franco-Nevada, to Newmont Mining, Franco’s executive team produced a collective Decision-Maker. We listed all the pros and cons, then the top four executives assigned their own point scores to each. We averaged them, the positives far outweighed the negatives, and we sold the company.
I have never been a fan of sharing my living space with other people. When I first moved out of my home, I had no option but to share. But after 18 months, I was done and moved to a small independent apartment.
But, as fate would have it, I soon was sharing the space with someone, but this time around, I liked the person and so things were fine…
This went on for about 6 years, and I switched 2 apartments in that time, but continued to share.
Here goes the rant..
I have picked up the slack most of the time, but eventually gave up for the last couple of years and was content with living like a pig, coz i was just sick of doing all the work…
But now that i have moved to another place, couple of days back, I really want to live well, and clean and stuff. And i am happy to keep things clean and organized from my end. But at the same time I am putting my foot down to doing all the work.
This has expectedly met with resistance from my flatmate, who’s happy to continue staying like a pig. This makes me wonder if I did the wrong thing picking up the slack all these years.
But I can’t go back and change things and so I have to stand my ground…